From Buff Madrill, 7 Months ago, written in Plain Text.
  10. I am not sure about formulas; the only question I ever seem to ask myself is whether the person I am with is someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. And that takes time to know.
  12. I enjoyed your re-telling of how Gary took the time and care to ask you questions. My man has done and still does the same with me. I used to be a little bothered when he would say he needed to "probe" a bit to dare he probe without my invitation! Yet, his care and interest in knowing how I feel is what has gotten us to where we are today. In a loving, caring relationship.
  14. As time for us has unfolded, his strong willed personality has remained steadfast and very gentlemanly. While I originally felt resistant to his will, the more I learned that he did not mean it in a threatening way, helped me to relax within myself and to him.
  16. Smitten
  18. by a Taken In Hand reader on 2006 Oct 28 - 02:28 | reply to this comment
  19. A Polite Request
  20. I think a great deal of success in any relationship, Taken In Hand or otherwise, needs a few ingredients. One is attention to detail. Another is consistency. Let's not forget insight and watchfulness. Really, what it all comes down to is really listening to your partner. Perhaps it also means, hearing and listening. I remember once describing how Gary would 'probe' my mind. A woman listening to this was very upset at that description. What does probe mean? How does he do it? That is intrusive! I can tell you at first it was almost a weird sensation. He would ask questions, wait patiently for answers, re-ask in another way, wait again. When he thought he found what he was looking for, he went for the deepest thought. And I was rather shocked he found his way into my inner voices. It was at that point I politely asked him to "Would you please get out of my head!"